It's even worse than it appears..
The other day I wrote about the problems that will appear unexpectedly because of the new rules imposed by HTTPS now that Drummer is running as an HTTPS app. One of the problems -- it totally broke Instant Outlines. If the user subscribes to an outline that's served under HTTP, the browser won't let us read it, because (I guess) they think we're loading code or private data. Neither is true. By definition the outline is public. There will be a workaround, we can call a server to read the file. I could be spending the time inventing new stuff, instead I'm mopping up after the EFF and Google. #
I chimed in on a Masto thread about whether the standard is Mastodon or ActivityPub. I was also asked for my advice which I freely gave. #
  • I went through my midlife crisis in the 90s. Till then, my life was directed toward success. Something I wanted ever since I was a small child. I wanted to do something great and creative. Maybe invent something. I wanted my life to have meaning. I wanted to make a difference. And I wanted to be recognized for my accomplishments.#
  • I arrived in the 90s with most of the boxes checked. Then I waited for the feeling of satisfaction. I waited for everyone whose approval I yearned for to approve of me. Nothing. Emptyness. All the approval felt conditional, hollow, not based on any understanding of who I am. #
  • So, did I approve of myself? No, not in any way. I was living a lie. Trying to design myself to fit into everyone else's idea of a worthwhile man. I wasn't listening to myself. I was letting other people define me. #
  • I still had another hill to climb, to learn how to listen to the internal chatter always going on inside me. All the voices, who were they and what did they want? Which were the powerful ones, and which were just nagging critics. #
  • I started writing publicly frequently, and then every day. I took risks, and told stories that didn't used to make it to journalism. I was offered a writing job at Wired. And I developed software to support this new activity, and in the process created something new, and this time wasn't aimed at fame and fortune, checking the boxes. It was simply something I wanted to have. Not saying the software I did before was just for checking boxes, that was never the case. Just that this was the first software I made that had nothing to do with checking the boxes. #
  • Another thing I did was start therapy in 1994. Eight years on the couch. Talking about myself. Being heard by someone whose job it was to listen. #
  • The first big discovery came a couple of years in. #
  • I was frustrated with something a relative did. I said "I know what he's doing right now." I was sure of it. #
  • The therapist asked: "How do you know?"#
  • That stopped me. I said: "I don't know."#
  • Then I asked: "Why didn't you ask that before?"#
  • Therapist: "I've been asking all along, this is the first time you responded."#
  • The big lesson was, as you dream your way through life, before you make a decision, check with your senses to see if the perception was right. #
  • Always ask yourself how you know what the other person is doing. #
  • PS: Here's a post from 1997 that goes into much more detail on this idea. "I know this sounds geekish, but it pays to use the scientific method in relationships with other people." #

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